Sex Treatment And Recovery Group (S.T.A.R.) Therapy ProgramJourneying together towards freedom and wholeness
Our Sex Treatment and Recovery (“STAR”) group sessions provide a safe, non-judgmental and connected space for peer support and learning, enabling long-term recovery for individuals who require a structured treatment program for compulsive sexual behaviour.
Each group session will be held once a week (online) and will last two hours, with breaks, as agreed by the group. Group members will not exceed eight people, and members may join the group at any time. Group members who leave, may rejoin at any time.
The twelve topics that will be covered in STAR will primarily involve: group processing; cognitive behavioral therapy; and mindfulness exercises. STAR is a task-based recovery model, in which progress is methodically tracked and celebrated.
Although individual therapy and attendance at SLAA, SA or other 12 step recovery groups is advised; it is not essential. Participants can benefit from STAR without these additional recovery supports
We are excited that you will be joining STAR.
We look forward to providing you with the support and guidance you desire, in order to enjoy the satisfying, purposeful and meaningful life that you deserve.
12 Group Topics
The twelve topics to be covered in STAR Group therapy are:
Do I really have a sex problem?
Am I really powerless over my sexual behaviour and is my life really unmanageable? You will learn to recognise the thoughts that are holding you back from recovery, such as denial, minimisation, intellectualisation, rationalisation, generalisation, uniqueness, comparison, blaming, compartmentalisation and helplessness. What tools can I use to identify powerlessness/unmanageability and recognise denial etc., in myself, from moment to moment? What is motivational scaling (commitment, willingness and confidence)? SLAA Steps 1, 4 & 5
What is the neuroscience of addiction and CSBD?
What does this information mean in recovery (meso-cortico-limbic system; salience/desire/triggers vs consummation/euphoria; cognitive impairment; stress, autonomic NS, sympathetic and parasympathetic NS). What tools can I use to change this (abstinence, 12 steps, self-care and self-soothing, boundaries, support network/interaction, and daily repetition – forming healthy habits and relationships)? SLAA Steps 1, 4 & 5
Who can help me in recovery?
How can they help? How do I ask? What is “surrender”? What is “honesty”? SLAA Steps 2 & 3
Meditation and mindfulness
what is it and what is it not? Using Apps, nature, music, smells, food, touch, envisioning. SLAA Step 11
What are triggers, urges and cravings?
What is a relapse intervention and prevention plan? How are cravings and urges related to healthy and unhealthy wants and needs? What tools should be in the plans (therapy; self-care; SLAA; 12 Steps; IT management; creation and use of support network; meditation/mindfulness; awareness of negative thoughts and substituting helpful ones; emotion regulation and distress tolerance tools; medication for anxiety and stress)? How do I use IT such as porn-blocking and tracking software and IT management? How do I create a supportive social network? The role of accountability. SLAA Steps 6 & 7
What tools can I use?
Are there tools to deal with: shame, guilt, stress, anger, fear, anxiety, rumination, boredom and depression? What tools can I use (therapy; self-care; SLAA; 12 Steps; the “Four Agreements” – honesty, differentiation, humility, sincerity and acceptance; creation and use of support network; meditation/mindfulness; awareness of negative thoughts and substituting helpful ones; emotion regulation and distress tolerance tools; gratitude and forgiveness; self-affirmations; medication for anxiety and stress)? SLAA Steps 6 & 7
What is an attachment style?
What types of attachment styles are there? What attachment style do I have? How did I acquire that style – family of origin/school/genetics? What are the stages of psycho-social development? How does my sexual behavior relate to my attachment style? Where does the “toxic” shame arise from? SLAA Steps 1, 4, 5, 6 & 7
Monogamy, sexual compulsivity and healthy sex.
What is the tension between: individuation vs intimacy/connection; excitement/novelty/exploration/transcendence vs safety/security/reliability/dependability in couple-hood? What will this tension mean for my intimate relationships going forward? What is healthy sex for me and my partner (planned intimate experiences)? What strengths do my partner and I have that we can use to get there? Recovery as a journey. SLAA Steps 6, 7 & 12
Amends - boundaries/consequences.
Why have boundaries/consequences in recovery? How is it that boundaries and consequences are “making amends”? What are personal boundaries/consequences in recovery? What are boundaries/consequences with my partner and children in recovery? How do I create my own boundaries/consequences? How do I articulate them? How do I enforcement the consequences? What are the pitfalls – judgment, atonement, shame and feelings of unworthiness? What communication skills and problem solving skills can I use in relationships? What tools can I use? SLAA Steps 8, 9 and 10
Making further Amends – disclosure.
What should I disclose? Who should I disclose to? How should I disclose? When? How do I manage the “fall-out” (abstinence, honesty, accountability, empathy, kindness, remorse, recovery actions, regular communication about recovery actions taken and planned, identify the barriers in recovery and how they were addressed). SLAA Steps 8, 9 and 10
Making even more Amends - family and couples therapy.
How do I, my partner and children get the best out of therapy – choosing a therapist and therapy goals. How do I help my partner and family? What do I need from my partner and my family? What are structured weekly couples and family check-ins? How is therapy integrated into a holistic set of recovery actions? SLAA Steps 8, 9 & 12
How do I know when I am in recovery? How do I maintain my motivation? How do I let go the shame of my past – action, accountability and humility vs self-judgment and self-pity. The “Four Agreements”. Recovery vision: What is a purposeful, meaningful and full life to me – the “miracle question”? “Giving it away to keep it”. Evolving the written recovery action plans. Continuing the SLAA 12 steps. SLAA Step 12
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Group sessions are on going.
About the therapist:
Andrew da Roza
Addictions Therapist, Sex Addiction Specialist
M.Couns (Monash), MSc (Addictions), MBA, LLM, LLB,
Certified Substance Abuse Therapist,
Substance Abuse Counsellor,
Certified Sex Addiction Therapist
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